Case in point: Emma showed me one email she’d received from a guy. He’s got a cute photo, a nice smile, a funny message…then I clicked on his profile.” short list to getting blocked.There was simply no way that Emma was going to bother to respond – this became a large clue to just what’s going on in his head and it wasn’t pretty.
” as the first line on an email from a complete stranger to remind you that maybe online dating that they’ve read my profile.” She rolled her eyes; this had been a long running complaint since the last time she’d attempted online dating.
As it was, she was trying to adjust the quality of interest by systematically weeding out all of the apparent creeper-bait from her profile; she’d had to switch from “bi” to “straight” when the only responses she’d gotten were from guys.
“At least this time I’m not getting deluged in offers from older guys and couples who’re looking for a third.” Being able to experience online dating from a woman’s perspective – if at one step removed – is something of an eye-opener to just how many guys seem determined to make sex vanish into thin air.
For every guy who complains about the number of emails he sends into the void with no response, there are ten women who’re getting two dozen from dudes who make their skin crawl…
and ironically, it would be so Attitude is a key part of success in dating.
Not only does it color how you see the world, but how others perceive you; a positive outlook is far more attractive than someone sitting around, radiating anger and vitriol at everyone who passes by.
There aren’t any women sitting around thinking “you know what I So why in pluperfect hell would you broadcast this to the world?
“I’d forgotten just how much of a feeding frenzy online dating is,” sighed my friend Emma.
She’d just broken up with her boyfriend and had reactivated her OKCupid account.
Evidently the emails started rolling in almost as soon as she’d clicked “confirm”.
I’d been helping her fine-tune her profile and I’d had an opportunity to see some of the winners come in.